Applebee’s

 There’s a movie I love called Couples Retreat my celebrity boyfriend Vince Vaughn stars in it and if you haven’t seen it yet give it a go  if you hate it blame me. I think you might love it like I do. It explains relationships at all stages for me because ultimately it all comes down to who are you going to go to Applebee’s with. Meaning when the steam of  infatuation and lust wear off and if you’re still together then that is when it hits brass tacks. I enjoyed being married. I’m happy in a committed relationship. Im an anomaly in single town these days and that’s ok. Looking at past relationships I think the trick is to be single with the person you’re committed to. Never stop dating each other, learning about each other,  having fun. Share the heavy stuff too like an Ass - meaning donkey. Once you’ve seen the movie it makes more sense. I’ve struggled to find the person who shared my philosophy and since  Vince Vaughn is happily married I guess it’s just my family and friends that I get to be an ass for and that’s good enough. In my friendships and family we get ugly and do the hard stuff when we need to. We cry with each other and support each other’s wins just like the losses. We tell the hard truth and stay. We hold space while the other person figures it out. Why is that so hard to do in a romantic relationship? Why can’t people commit to that relationship like they do to the new iPhone? Ultimately.. I want a man who sees that movie and gets it and I’m willing to wait. The best proposal for this movie nerd would be “would you like to go to Applebee’s with me forever” ? Who are YOU going to go to Applebee’s with!